It takes a lot to achieve maturity and it’s not always a matter of time or age. Mature people seem to put more value into others than themselves – a quality that can be acquired through experience, patience, and a general sense of empathy.
Whether or not you can say you’ve matured is still a subjective matter. However, there are common things mature people share that only they understand.
Here are 24 habits, qualities and beliefs mature people have that the young can take away from:
1) Personal business should never reach social media
Personal matters, especially those that concern negative situations must never reach social media. An ability to control yourself and keep yourself from posting hateful comments and statuses about people, places and events is a sign of maturity. Fought with your significant other or best friend? Don’t tell the world by posting it on your social media accounts – people don’t need it and not everyone truly cares what happens in your personal life.
2) Parents are also human beings
True maturity is when you shed all your presumptions about your parents as a child and see them for what they truly are – human beings. With this in mind, seeing your parents make mistakes (as humans do) and understanding that they are not perfect is a sign of maturity.
3) When you remember that your actions can affect the others
You are never alone in this world. Your actions do not only affect your life but others’ as well, either directly or indirectly. Mature people are fully aware of this and often take into consideration the people in their lives before jumping into conclusions or formulating an opinion.
4) Do not be upset over trivial things
“Don’t cry over spilled milk” is an idiom that best describes maturity. Regardless of its impact, negative things that have already happened do not need to dominate your life as of present. Instead, mature people see them as an opportunity to improve. Mature people know this and live with the reality. Mature people also know which battles to choose and which ones to walk away from.
5) Be willing to make sacrifices
For the sake of doing the right things in the right way, mature people are willing to make sacrifices. Their are biases are often leaning towards what is right for the people around them and less about their personal agenda. Immature people will never appreciate this kind of attitude.
6) Let someone else have the last word
A person who gets to say the last word in an argument isn’t always right. For mature people, it is enough to speak their mind and hope that the other person sees their point of view. They know that insisting to have the last word would only mean a never-ending argument.
7) Understand that people are entitled to their emotions
Maturity does not end at understanding the fact that others are not like you but believing that the difference isn’t bad at all, in fact, it is necessary. It is true that we are different and that no two persons have the same emotions, beliefs and experiences. Only the mature people will whole-heartedly accept this reality.
8) Think more, talk less
Think more and talk less but think first before you talk. It is important that you have filtered your words before they even come out of your mouth. Why? Because you can never take back anything you say, whether it positive words or destructive ones.
9) Be a good person, don’t just look like one
There’s a difference between being a good person and appearing to be one. Mature people genuinely think about what’s fair and what’s right without an ulterior motive or agenda. If you often put up a friendly face just to get something you want but stab people once their backs are turned, you’re not a good person at all.
10) Hold no grudge
Receiving insults happens to everyone. If you get a lot of them, then you are not alone. Mature people know that sometimes, you have to learn how to take criticism (whether constructive or not) and hold it against a person. Holding grudges is not only counter-productive, it can also divert your energy and attention away from more important things.
11) Make room for traffic mergers
Traffic mergers are everywhere. Some of them are in great hurry while others are just simply hard-headed. But since you have no idea what other drivers are up to, it is better to give them room and avoid further problems afterwards.
12) Know when to avoid others
Identify the people who do not deserve your time. These are the ones who do no good to you. Learn to know who they are and avoid them. Mature people know how to select people who can add value to their lives.
13) Do not be embarrassed by necessary purchases
You should never be ashamed in buying your needs – toilet paper? A condom? Birth control pills? A tampon. These things are necessary and buying them means you’re taking good care of yourself. There’s no shame in that!
14) Delay gratification
Mature people do not believe in shortcuts just to get something in return. They believe in doing things the right way no matter how hard it may be. To mature people, a more challenging road means sweeter success.
15) Book a dentist appointment
There is a sense of maturity when you are aware of your own responsibilities to your health. An appointment with a dentist does not happen every single day so booking one is a sign of growth towards maturity.
16) Willing to change opinion
It’s fine when you stand by your opinions but your willingness to change when proven wrong takes a lot of maturity. It takes a humble heart to accept that you were wrong.
17) Be self-reliant
Mature people are independent. They can go along well with others but never rely on them. Instead, they make sure people can rely on them. They can are trustworthy, creative and positive.
18) They do not become upset when they’re not liked
You can never impress everybody. Mature people know this to be true. However, they do not let other people’s opinions get in the way of their work or personal lives, nor do they place any importance on people who judge them without knowing them first. If you master this art, you just might be a mature one.
19) Talk accomplishments when the opportunity arises
Mature people are self-confident but they never boast about their accomplishments. Only when the need arises that they share their accomplishments to the public.
20) Work to improve flaws
We all have flaws because we aren’t perfect. Mature people know, understand, and accept this fact. They know that they have flaws and they will continue to working on improving these flaws and turning them into strengths.
21) They make no excuses
Mature people adopt to change in their environment. They are not afraid to face a new situation. These people aren’t only concerned with their own well-being but of others as well.
22) Let go of conversations which may turn to arguments
It’s a critical life skill to know when to let go of an intense conversation before it becomes a full-blown argument. It is never a sign of maturity to insist your point to someone who would insist his/hers too. They let go a conversation to avoid an argument and tension in a relationship.
23) The sense of responsibility
From easy to scary things, mature people do things because they feel that they have the responsibility to. They recognize that they have a role to play in this world and they do so whole-heartedly.
24) Consider the opposing points of view
very person is entitled to his own point of view. Just as you are entitled to your ideas, others are also free to express their own. Just as others consider your own points, they also deserve to be considered by you. This attitude requires compassion, intelligence and reason.